Hardship

I've learned a lot of things in the course of my life and I think that the one that makes me happiest and saddest all at the same time, is the fact that when a hard time comes up in your life, you learn who your friends are.

I'm not talking about fair weather friends, though you learn who they are in your life as well. I mean that you learn who your real, true-blue, never turn their backs on you for a second friends are. The people that care about you no matter what, that never judge but give you a shoulder to cry on.

Those who know me well, know that I have been through a very rough few years, and know what all those few years entailed, I'll spare the details for now, because I'm not sure that I want to write about it for the consumption of the general public...suffice it to say that my life sucked for a few years and the last two have been so much better than my life has ever been.

During my hard times, I found out that when life gets difficult, only your real friends stand by you. Only they support you and hold you up and if it wasn't for my true friends, I'd still be lost in the depths and darkness that I plunged myself into. They know who they are, and I thank them for all their love and support.

I wonder why it is that this phenomenon happens. Why is it, when you need people the most, they turn their backs on you? I mean, if it was something that you had direct control over, and did to be malicious and vindictive, I could understand that. When it's something that has happened that no one intended to happen...why is it so hard to live up to your obligation as a friend?

Because the person affected can no longer focus solely on the issues of everyone else? That seems moderately selfish to me. Is it because suddenly, the person affected is asking for more than the 'friend' is willing to give? That seems likely.

Maybe it's a mystery that no one will ever figure out, but I'm glad I know who my real friends are and who means it when they tell me they love me.